Episode 123: Overcome Codependency by Setting Boundaries with Courtney J. Burg

In this episode of the Visibly Fit podcast, host Wendie Pett interviews Courtney J. Burg, author of the book ‘Loyal to a Fault: Establishing New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting.’ They discuss the importance of setting boundaries, the difficulty in doing so, and the connection between hurt and coping mechanisms. Courtney shares her personal experience with codependency and how she found freedom through setting boundaries. They also explore the biblical perspective on boundaries and reconciliation. The episode concludes with information on where to find Courtney’s book.

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Visibly Fit Podcast

00:41 Introduction of Topic and Guest

02:20 Background and Inspiration for Writing the Book

04:35 Personal Experience with Boundaries and Codependency

06:50 The Importance of Boundaries and the Difficulty in Setting Them

10:40 The Connection Between Hurt and Coping Mechanisms

13:30 Choosing to Be Loyal to Others Without Being Loyal to Their Wounds

15:30 Setting Boundaries with Oneself

17:15 The Difficulty in Setting Boundaries with Others

20:20 Practicing Saying No as a Boundary

22:35 Biblical Examples of Boundaries and Reconciliation

26:55 Separating Identity from Parental Expectations

29:25 Living at Peace with Others Without Reconciliation

33:38 Book Release and Where to Find the Book

33:50 Closing

Resources mentioned:

Loyal to a Fault

https://courtneyjburg.com/

Connect with today’s guest:

Courtney J. Burg is the founder of Discover Your Worth, an online membership designed to support women with practical tools to break free from codependency while establishing a healthy boundary practice. Through self-led video coursework and supplemental material, women from all over the world are finding this resource a key component in reclaiming their peace and setting down dysfunctional patterns of behavior for good. Courtney has an undergrad degree in Psychology from the University of Florida and is currently pursuing her Master’s in Evangelism and Leadership with the Propel Cohort at Wheaton College. She and her husband, Jim, live in South Florida with their four young children. Her first book, Loyal to a Fault, was released this December.

Connect with Wendie:

To learn more and for free resources go to www.wendiepett.com. If you haven’t listened to the Introduction and the first 5 episodes of the Visibly Fit Podcast make sure you do. You will be encouraged that becoming Visibly Fit is actually within REACH. You can download the worksheets at www.wendiepett.com/visiblyfitpodcast